10 Types of Moms That are Difficult to Deal With
Let’s face it — making friends with other mothers can be incredibly difficult. There seems to be a protocol of sorts that comes with being a mom. I get it, but I’ve had some difficulty in learning how not to say the wrong thing. There is a steep learning curve with this kind of thing and I am learning as I go, but in the meantime, I have come up with a list of ten types of mothers that for my own sanity and to not put my foot in my mouth, I can’t spend any time around or deal with.
The Stay at Home Mom
Full disclosure, I am a card-carrying member of the stay-at-home mom club. This means that I know all about the stress and toil of having to take care of a small child and just how taxing it can be on the mind, body and spirit. What I don’t do is go eight if somebody asks me what I do all day. I don’t take offense, because honestly, I have been pulling my hair out trying to figure out how more stay-at-home moms don’t drive themselves crazy with boredom. We essentially are on a never ending merry-go-round of cleaning, feeding and transporting kids every single day.
The Working Mom
On the flipside, many working moms hate it when people ask them how they can bear to leave their children while they go out and earn a living. I want to be able to get back into the workforce at some point, but even the notion of it causes anxiety. It would help me to be able to talk to somebody who can tell me about how they tend to balance it all. I have my kind of mom and would never make you feel guilty.
The Pregnant Mom
Another type of mom that I often put my foot in my mouth around is the pregnant mom. My inclination is to ask some simple questions, such as the sex of the baby or if they have picked out a cute name. I have to keep myself from putting my foot in my mouth by offering any unsolicited advice or by recounting stories of my own pregnancies. To make up for that, I looked the other way and act like I don’t see the pregnant mom jeans or the swollen ankles.
The Mom with an Only Child
Once again, I completely fall into this category. People ask me all the time if I want to have more kids, and I don’t. However, I also don’t get mad at the question. I actually think the question is valid and pay no mind to the fact that someone might be judging me for it.
The Mom with A House Full Of Kids
Seeing mothers with a house full of kids generally fascinates me. I actually have a friend who is on her ninth, yes, NINTH baby. I have a laundry list of questions to ask her, but don’t quite feel right asking. It always makes me wonder how the super moms do it, or what stories they must have — but I just keep it to myself.
The Lesbian Mom
I am completely supportive of love and any two mom families. They probably face enough judgment and discrimination on a regular basis, so I always hesitate to mention anything to them.
The Mom Who Adopted
There are a lot of potentially sensitive factors with this one. I actually love to hear the wonderful and loving stories of adoption and would love to hear them. But at the same time, I do not want to make those moms feel like I’m singling them out.
The Mom with Twins
To me, twins are the coolest thing since sliced bread. If I met a set of adorable little triplets, I would probably flip. It will be awesome to hear from a mother with twins about her experiences when it comes to this wonderful little miracle of life.
The Mom with A Special Needs Child
I don’t want to be condescending about this one, which is why typically don’t bring it up. I am afraid to say the wrong thing. My assumption is that you probably have enough on your plate to contend with, so I don’t want to add to it.
The Mom with the Tantrum Child
Kids throwing Tasmanian devil tantrums sometimes are a fact of life. My inclination is to suggest a wonderful parenting book or tell you how I beat these fits. Instead, I typically opt to thank my lucky stars that my own child is quiet and relaxed at the moment.
The saddest part about all of this is that I would most likely be friends with any of these moms. What’s most likely is that people who are rude and knows he has messed it up and made an awkward for everybody. It is too bad, because this culture of defensiveness forms a barrier that keeps us all from being friends and exchanging stories of Mom-dom.
Hey there! It’s Jessie from HootBabyDesigns.com! I’m a Mom who loves to blog between running my kids around in their baby jogger city select single stroller. My perfect day starts off with just getting them prepared for an outdoor adventure, packing some healthy snacks, fruits and juices, and off we go. I love having them outdoors early on in the day because it tires them out for their afternoon naps. That’s my prime time to do my blogging about all things Mommy-like and baby product-wise. I hope you enjoyed this post. I welcome your thoughts and comments.